Fate and Friendship

Nearly two years ago, I was embarking on a fresh start in life. After harsh failure, depression and a very difficult two years…
But the difference was myself; I was a changed person, a better and stronger one. Armed with a new, positive, “I am all right” and the “Universe conspires to act for my own good” attitude and wise advice from my best friends in Mauritius, I went to university on a sunny autumn day in September. Despite all of this, one cannot help but be scared and anxious, and I trudged along on my first day, with it ending by having made one friend from the library tour.
The second day dawned, and I told myself this countless times, “It is ok to be on my own. If I don’t make friends now, it is not the end of the world. It takes time.”

Then the Universe stepped in.

I do believe it is true, when you surrender to the fact that there is a master plan out there and that the contribution we make is decision making, that Life, Fate, the Universe or God, conspires to show us the way. On that second day I met by chance, a group of wonderful people, by stepping up and talking to someone during a lunch gathering. From then this group of people I met just naturally gravitated towards each other and today we are still a tight knit group. For that I am always grateful, because friendship like that is very rare.

Amongst all these people, was an oldie like myself (even though only a year younger ;P). She had the same fears as mine; “I am older than these children, what do I do if I have to be alone?” Within the space of probably 6 months, through an argument, shared train journeys and probably experiences that were more than what we thought we had in common, we became good friends. At present, I can call her my best friend, because truly and honestly, on a level that I have only ever connected with my two other best friends before, I connect with her. As we both say, we are soul mate sisters ^_^!

Through common experiences, shared understanding of them, our love of food, music( not always the same 😉 ) and shared values, I found another treasure of a friend who is an amazing person!

Why am I sharing this today? Simply because it is her birthday! ^_^ I am unwell and was not able to meet her to give her her presents, and wish her a very Happy Birthday!
So this post is dedicated to her! And also to my two other very precious best friends, and soul sisters of 11 years (Theirs is a story that will take a longer post 😉 )!

Thank You Pie! For being the great person and friend you are! No matter what happens, I believe in you and I love you child! Even though I have only known you for two years, it feels like much longer! Be strong always and I know you have the potential to become an even better and bigger person ( spiritually not physically lol) and Happpyy Birthday sister!! ^_^

Ju and Sheek, Thank you my soul sisters! For always having stuck by me, no matter how much the distance! I know I don’t say it often, but I am always very thankful and grateful for always having you two in my life! I will always be there for you (haha Friends!) It doesn’t matter how long I am away, because whenever I am back it always feels like we are back in F3 when I left but with an even stronger bond. Love you both! (P.S: Look what I found ^_^)

Finally, I am very proud of all of you. The growth I have seen and I see in you (and me ) is amazing and you are awesome human beings! ❤ To many more years of craziness and wonderful times!

Happy Birthday Pie! Love you sister! ^_^


Always grateful

ImageI was having a conversation with my best friend quite a while ago, telling her about this diary entry of mine that I have to show her. It was an epiphany, I guess? A real moment of clarity and peace. She suggested, why not put this on your blog? And here I am (albeit a few months later !) ! This somewhat follows on from my previous post.

I have always had a roof over my head, no matter where I was in the world.

I have always had the love and warmth of my parents, sometimes it might not have seemed like it to me, but it was there.

I have almost always had my best friends, no matter where, no matter when , be it night or day.

I have always been protected, kept safe from harm.

Had life been made somewhat easier (in most instances) for me.

Had education, no restriction to broaden my horizons, to seek knowledge. Always had the freedom to express myself.

The protection and support of loved ones, while also having the freedom to follow my path, of my own choosing.

Thus the point of all of this is simply that I have an abundance of wealth, not materialistically speaking, but as a human being.

I ask the Universe for forgiveness for all the times I have complained, cried and been angry for the things I did not get, I lost, the condition I have, the “no boyfriend at this age” complaint etc. , because I realise I have everything for a happy life, right now.

Some people ( children, babies  and adults) do not even have a fraction of all this and still continue living their lives.

I will someday for sure help them. I want to give, share what I have so generously always received from life, unconditionally.

And thus ended my simple and humble epiphany. It was probably always there at the back of my mind but never came to me so clearly and simply. Maybe because it was early in the morning and so quiet around me?


Irony and so on…

On the train today, I saw two advertisements, side by side.

Why is this ironic? Well one of the ads was a Christmas emergency appeal for homeless children by the charity Shelter. The second was an ad for made.com for various items ranging from a chair which cost around 100 pounds,  a glorified bicycle  costing close to 200 pounds and much more.
How ironic life is. There are people who are able to and who do buy these things while there are homeless children who might die on cold streets. No food, no warmth and no shelter.image

Makes one think how do people who sail through life, having all those things but being blissfully ignorant to the plight of others, live with themselves ?

For less than half the price of one of these items, those children could get shelter during these dangerous and difficult times. Does this mean I am condemning those who do want these nice things in life? Simply put… No, I really am not. People work hard and there is nothing wrong with enjoying a few nice things in life.  I read the following in the book, “Discover Your Destiny with The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: The 7 Stages of Self-Awakening” by Robin Sharma. It says that it is not wrong to want money and live a comfortable life but  to be careful that making money does not become the sole focus of one’s life above all else.  I really love this quote which really summarizes it all ; ” money is the unintended yet inevitable by-product of a life spent helping others get what they want.”  


As for myself, I am always very grateful and glad that I was born in a middle class family. My parents have worked very hard. They both come from families where their fathers were in menial jobs (labourers in fields and manual jobs) and their mothers were housewives. Their life was difficult but nevertheless a character building childhood, adolescence and adulthood.  I am very proud of both of them to be the open minded and strong individuals they are today. The environment which me and my siblings grew up in, allowed us  to think more about our career paths in terms of what we want to do rather than we HAVE to do any jobs which will allow us to get a lot of money. For this, I am eternally grateful, because not once have I thought to find a job purely for the financial gain. I know money is important and however much I do make, I will save and manage within my means.

Coming back to the initial issue, what is it that those who are in a position to help using the fortunes they have can do? Even whilst enjoying the finer things in life?

I guess this is something to ponder on and carefully consider…